The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers. Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. |